A change from my usual postings,
but something struck me today about someone (or a few people) that I
know; just because we can't see the pain, it doesn't mean it's not
there. previously I posted an article on gaming in relationships, in
a way this is a spin off of the same topic, I hope you enjoy.
There are some people in our lives
that have the power to change us, they can be right in front of your
nose or they can be on the other side of the world, but in some way
shape or form they will change us, and not necessarily for the
better. I am of course talking about relationships. Boyfriends,
Girlfriends, Best friends, Husbands, Wives, friends with benefits
ect. All these people have something in common, you have given a part
of yourself to them, and in return you get a part of them, memories,
both good and bad. Feelings, both euphoric and despairing, in a split
second your mood can change from on top of the world to the lowest of
the low with seemingly no way to turn it around, all because one of
these people have an ability, one that not every Tom, Dick or Harry
on the street can do; They can make you feel.
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| Love for all, even the slow ones. |
Many of us have experienced these
relationships, we have also experienced the heartache and the self
doubt that can occur when these relationships break down and end.
especially in the more romantic relationships, the ending of one can
influence you to drastically change your general mood, behavior or
personality in an effort to block out the feelings you might be
undergoing. These feelings can last for hours, days, months even
years and we never truly feel the same as we did before the
relationship ended.
In many of the instances that I've
seen, music can be the one saving grace for the person feeling a
tsunami of emotions and feelings, everything from rock and metal to
soul and R'n'B. I now point you in the direction of “Wrecking Ball”
by Miley Cirus, which was incidentally what gave me part of the
inspiration for this piece. The song talks of a relationship that has
been completely destroyed, and Miley singing about how hurt and
fragile she feels but whilst also realizing what went wrong. I'm not
going to go on and analyze the song, because that would be boring.
A beautiful cover, full of emotion
Some, if not all of us have felt like
the Miley of our own relationships at one point in time or another, I
wont be lecturing you in to letting everything go in one fell swoop,
picking yourself up and dusting yourself down, telling you “There's
plenty more fish in the sea” or any of those dated clichés.
Instead I'm going to offer advise: embrace the feelings. Don't let
them consume you, but embrace them, listen to them, take stock of
everything you've learnt in the relationship and regret nothing from it.
Coming out of such a close bond, filled with love, care, devotion,
attention and kind words is never easy and can cause some people to
completely lose sight their own identity in an effort to bring the
good times back, but with everyday that you listen to what the pain
is telling you. Is another day that you remember the good times, the
fun times, the times that you look back on and smile, without the
pain of everything that has happened, tainting your memory of the
past.
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| Itch it and you'll ruin it... |
You move through the pain as if you
were getting a tattoo; mild irritation turns to agonizing pain, that
then turns to an itch that you CAN'T scratch that turns to a
beautifully crafted piece of art. (I thought I said no clichés?) But
like a tattoo, emotional pain takes time to heal, scratching the pain
will cause it to manifest, thus causing more pain, but this is just
my take on the subject, let me know what you think in the comments
below.
I may do more articles like this, if
inspiration strikes and fully takes hold I will write about anything.
I will leave you today with this; Tomorrow is not promised, what you
may have today, may be be lost. so live, love and laugh like this is
your last day on earth.
Peace, love and puppies ladies and
gents,
Sgt Mooby
Chin up Scaredy Bear, I'm here if
you need to talk x
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